Select an Emotion to Unmemorize
Memorized feelings control how you think. These feelings lead to thoughts that shape your attitudes. Your attitudes affect what you believe about yourself and others, which shapes how you see things.
When you have a thought, the body releases chemicals that cause you to feel a certain way. This feeling then influences how you think and act. It is a repetitive cycle of thinking and feeling, feeling and thinking.
For example, stress hormones stimulate survival-related states of mind. Most of our behaviors and choices then align with these feelings.
“When you’re angry,
you’re frustrated;
when you’re frustrated,
you hate;
when you hate,
you judge;
when you judge,
you’re envious;
when you’re envious,
you’re insecure;
when you’re insecure,
you’re competitive;
when you’re competitive,
you’re selfish.”
Alternately, elevated emotions stimulate elevated states of mind.
“When you’re joyous,
you love;
when you love,
you feel free;
when you’re free,
you’re inspired;
when you’re inspired,
you’re creative;
when you’re creative,
you’re adventurous,
and so on.”
When you begin to unmemorize an emotion that is a large part of who you are, it sets off a chain reaction of changes. When you start forgetting anger, your other bad feelings will go away too. You’ll be less annoyed, envious, resentful, and so forth.
Unmemorize what doesn’t serve you
Pick an unwanted emotion you want to unmemorize.
It could be insecurity, shame, sadness, worry, frustration, unworthiness, guilt, fear, suffering, anger, resentment, regret, judgment, envy, victimization, hatred, anxiety, disgust, depression, greed, etc.
Close your eyes and think about how the unwanted emotion feels and where it appears in your body.
Do you become hot, irritated, jittery, weak, deflated, or tight? Is this in your neck, shoulders, or stomach? How is your breathing? Do you feel impatient?
Ask yourself, “What is my attitude when I feel this way?”
For example, if you want to overcome fear, you might have to address feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or desperate. Other examples include: competitive, controlling, overwhelmed, complaining, self-important, blaming, timid, confused, rushing, distracted, sensitive or insensitive, needy, self-pitying, and lazy.
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